I was on my way in this morning and caught the glimpse of the sun shining brightly in the sky and ya know what!?! After a few days of off and on again rain and the cold weather coming in, and appreciating that kind of stuff makes me have a happier life.
Yeah, I know that’s not much to celebrate but I have to tell you that more than ever, I look for little things like that to get me through my day. Some days you just have to.
In an ever changing world where there is so much drama and conflict, people suffering and in need of so many things, the simple rays of sunshine can brighten up anyone’s day. It doesn’t necessarily solve problems but little things like this can help us when we need it and it does make us have a happier life.
I now more than ever in my life, look for various things that make me happy and journal at least 10 new things every day.
That used to be SO hard for me. It was the same running list…family, friends, my job, my clients….that sort of thing.
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And then, one day, one of my mentors challenged me. Write 10 new things each day. How the heck was that supposed to happen?
But I did and I found 10 new things each day.
I keep a running list on my phone because as the day progresses, I might need that reminder that there are still good and happy things that are going on even in the midst of some terrible things that are going on all over and that helps me with having a happier life.
Some things that I’ve written down the past few days are:
- Seeing one of my daughters help an injured teammate
- Getting some unexpected free time
- Talking to my hubby about retirement
- An unexpected facetime from my other daughter
- My sister calling to check in
- My husband’s excitement at kicking a keg at his favorite brewery
- Unexpected income coming in
- Having confidence to ask for what I want and allowing God to determine the path
- Having a lazy day with my pups
- Content creation for some new programs I’m working on
As you can see from the above, those aren’t crazy big things but they are things to give thanks for. Often times, we forget that these things help provide us happiness and joy. Again, they don’t solve world problems or even some of the stuff we are facing but they can add some bright spots into your day.
do what you love
One of the things that I had to do to really find a happier life for myself was to take a deep hard look at what I was doing in my life. Was I working a job that made me happy? Was I involved in friendships and relationships that made me happy? Did all of the other things that I chose to be a part of make me happy?
I had to do some real soul searching and that’s what I ask you to do.
Gab a pen and paper and create two columns. Label one column “Things that make me happy” and then the other column, “Things that don’t inspire me.” You’ll begin to fill in those columns with the things that make up your life.
Now, just like with everything else in life, this is going to take action and you and only you can determine what you want your life to look like. Maybe you can start with some of the smaller stuff, like maybe learning to say no and setting boundaries , and then graduate over time into some major life changes that will make a much bigger impact.
make you #1
As a busy workaholic mom, this was probably the hardest for me. I wanted so badly to reach my own goals, to provide for my family all the things I didn’t have growing up and for them to feel special and loved.
I was always on the go, the one you could rely on, the sweet girl from down the road who said yes to everything and then one day it clicked thanks to some people I love. I was digging a grave for myself by choosing unhealthy things to help me get through each day because I was tired and overwhelmed.
Wine and Appletini’s were my BFFs at that time and we spent a lot of time together. It took an intervention for me to see that I was drinking to help me make my day better and I was a hot mess!
I had to put myself first for once. I had to start setting boundaries, find the good things in life, find my passion and purpose and all of the other stuff that I had to learn to do make me #1 for once.
I decided that things had to change because I didn’t want to lose the people I loved and all the things that I had worked hard for. I found new, healthier habits to replace the old ones and I started putting me first.
I no longer open a bottle of wine when I come in from work or while I’m making dinner. If I want to enjoy a cocktail, I ask myself. “Is this something that I really want or am I drinking this because I think it will make me feel better?” There’s many a night now that I don’t drink and go enjoy a hot bath instead.
I was the only one who could make this change and the same goes for you. If you want a better, happier life, you have to make it happen.
Enjoy the bubble baths, say no to people or things that exhaust you, find the series on Amazon Prime TV to binge watch and all of the other things that will help you rest, recharge and revive your life.
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