Ever wonder how you can boost your confidence?
I was just chatting with a friend and she says to me….
”Laura, you’re so confident. I wish I could do the things you do.”
and I said to her….
It was after she said that to me that I knew I had to share some things with her which included my most favorite tips on how to boost your confidence. These were the same things that I share with my Coaching clients.
But, before I can begin sharing my tops how you can boost your confidence, I need to tell you something so that you know why this is so important.
It took me a long time to feel comfortable in my own skin, to find my voice and to take action in creating my dream life.
You see, I WAS a victim of sexual abuse, verbal abuse and physical abuse growing up. I felt little and worthless most of my life. I was made to believe the things that people had said about me.
It was when my husband, Bob, and I were talking that something clicked! I don’t know why it took so long other than I guess that was when it was meant to occur.
It was at that time that I decided to be a VICTOR, not a victim because I could no longer continue to live my life like this.
It seems just like yesterday because I remember it so well.
Bob, my husband and I were talking and I was telling him how frustrated I was with where I was in my life and how badly I wanted all these things and I wanted to prove myself. I said to him..
”I want to be a somebody!”
and he said….
”You’re already somebody!”
and that really got me thinking.
He was right! I WAS a somebody already!
Little by little, my attitude about myself began to change and eventually became the woman I am now. It was a gradual change and something that I had to do each and every day.
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So, now that you know my story, you’re probably wondering what tips I shared with my friend?
Well, I’m happy to tell you those things right now so that you too, can boost your confidence.
Stop worrying what other people think of you.
What matters more is what you think of yourself. An affirmation that I like to say to myself is….I am strong and confident. (If you like affirmations, be sure to check out my Pinterest boards where I have pinned a bunch of various ones.)
Heres the thing….
What other people think of you is none of your business.
That was hard for me to swallow when I heard that phrase because I wanted people to like me and I wanted to feel loved. I also wanted to be like other people who I thought had the kind of life that I wanted.
Truth is, those people have their own imperfections and we don’t always have access to that side of life. The life you’re living, the things you’ve been through are all a part of what make you are who you are. Don’t ever be ashamed of that!
Focus on what you’re good at.
Often times we spend our energy focusing on the things we aren’t good at. No more of that, okay! Let’s do the opposite and begin acknowledging those things that we do good that makes us who we are.
Jot down 5 things you’re good at and post it somewhere you’ll see each day. Remind yourself that you have your own strengths and abilities that make you the special being you are.
Please know this….You don’t have to be like anyone else because you my friend, are uniquely made and there is no on else that is supposed to be you!
Take action everyday.
By this, I mean that being indecisive or not crossing things on our “to do list” is not a good thing. (If you’ve been procrastinating, read this next.)
Everyday you must take action on something if you want your life to be different. Choosing to make a decision is often times better than not making one at all, even if it is the wrong one.
Take care of yourself too.
Ever have those days that fly by and you don’t remember much because you’re busy taking care of everyone?
Yeah, I’ve had those too, unfortunately.
I’m sure that this might sound familiar. By the end of the day, after my work day was done, the kids fed, bathed and put to bed, the fur kids looked after and loved and the house picked up, I was D-O-N-E! Yep, that’s right, I was totally exhausted and that was not a good thing! Thats why its so important to make sure that you are taking and making time for you.
As experts say, you can’t pour from an empty cup and it’s true. Be sure you’re getting that rest your body needs so you can be YOUR best self.
Here’s how you’ll do it.
Take out your calendar, call your day spa and book that massage that you’ve been dreaming about or whatever else it is that you’ve been putting off. Buy some new makeup, get a new hair do, buy a new outfit. Those things help build confidence too.
Watch the words you speak and those that you think.
This one is really, really important.
How many times have you said something like this? …. “I’m stupid” or “That was dumb of me.” when you made a mistake or goofed on something?
You’ve probably lost count, right?
Even if jokingly, you said or thought those things.
Decide TODAY, that you are choosing not to do that anymore. Start speaking and loving yourself the way you do other people.
When you feel like saying or thinking something along those lines, ask yourself these questions.
- Would you talk like that to someone else?
- Would you tell them they are stupid or dumb?
Of course you wouldn’t do those things to other people so don’t say those negative things to yourself!
Visualize who you want to be.
Think back for a minute. Do you remember when you were little and you used to play dress up and pretend?
Just like back in the day, you’re going to do something really similar. Each morning before you start your day, you’re going to take a few minutes to sit and think about how you can boost your confidence.
You’ll ask yourself questions like….
- What does that look like?
- How does it make you feel?
- What do you need to get there?
The more you think it, feel it, the believe it, the quicker it will come.
So there you have it, I’ve given you 6 tips to help boost your confidence. If I can do it, you can too. I’ll be here rooting you on.
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See you there!