You’ve got a decision to make and you’re not sure what you should do. Do you listen to your gut? Or do you go with your heart or your mind instead? How do you tell which is right? I get that and I’ve been there myself. Going with your gut is a God given gift that you and I were given and need to use. .Today, I’m going to share some things with you that I’ve learned over the years and have taught my own coaching clients.
First off, let me say that sometimes you just know what you need to do. You don’t need to think about things or talk over anything with anyone. You just know what you want and it’s that easy. When that happens, it makes life much simpler for sure! You’re going with what your gut tells you.
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However, not all decisions can be that easy. Some deal with things that can be life changing or scary or emotional in some other way.
It wasn’t that long ago that I was approached with an AWESOME opportunity to buy a business. It fell into my lap and it was one that I could build and leave as a legacy for my children. It even got to the point where I had negotiated the sale price and the contract was being drawn up.
But while I was moving through the various phases of negotiating this deal, something just didn’t feel right in my gut. It wasn’t the seller as he was a super nice guy. It was that while this was an awesome opportunity for someone, it wasn’t right for me. I would have never been happy taking ownership over and today, I am ever so thankful for that. Being able to go with my gut was the right move!
So, what did I do to help me decide what was right for me? How do I know to go with my gut?Here are three things that I do to determine whether or not to move forward when making a decision.
How does this make me feel?
Our bodies know things and feeling things can help with decision making.
Does it feel restrictive or exciting?
If it’s something that makes me feel restrictive or trapped, that’s usually my gut telling me it’s not such a good idea. If I’m excited but nervous and get sweaty palms, that’s usually just fear and I know that it’s time for me to move out of my comfort zone and step into this next phase.
When I thought about buying this business, I was honored and excited to be approached as I had worked really hard to build my resume. But when I sat down and started to think about things, I began to feel restricted. I knew that there would be sacrifices that I would be making that in the end I would be regretting with what I wanted my life to look like.
Which brings me to my next exercise to tell if you should go with your gut.
What does my future look like?
One of the things I do is ask myself a really simple question.
“Will I regret not doing ______ in 10 years?” or “Will I regret doing _______ in 10 years?”
When I was in the midst of making the decision to buy this business, I asked myself this question…”Will I regret buying this business in 10 years?“ I was at the point that I was talking myself into doing this because of what I thought it could offer me and my family but something was still off. I needed to find out what was going on go with my gut and thats where I reminded myself that I had all of those restrictive feels and I feel like this was smothering me.
And, my answer was yes. I wrote down all of the reasons why I felt this way and then reviewed those against the list that was in favor of buying the business, I could see how and why it wasn’t a good fit for me.
I called the seller up and told him that I couldn’t move forward and explained why and thankfully, he understood where I was coming from.
Last but not least, if I’m still not sure about what direction I should move, I’ll do this.
I’ll ask a friend or relative, someone who will be honest and that I trust, to watch my body language and/or listen to the tone of my voice when I talk about this new project or idea.
I want them to tell me if I seem excited about it or not.
That excitement is the key to deciding if I should move forward or not.
When I recently decided to enroll in a course, I used this last exercise to help me decide if it was the course I should take to help me expand my services. I enlisted a family member and chatted about this idea and I am pleased to announce that I am almost at the end of my course. That excitement is still there and yes, I’m still a tad bit nervous but I feel it was the right decision.
So there ya go, there are three exercises that helped me confirm that what my gut was telling me.
Something to think about as I end today’s post,
“Nobody ever died of discomfort, yet living in the name of comfort has killed more ideas, more opportunities, more actions, and more growth than everything else combined. Comfort kills!”
– T. Harv Eker
Now that you’re armed with the same tools that I use to help me decide if I should go with my gut. Next time you’re torn on making a decision, try them and see what happens.